A Time to Reflect…

Life – at times – can stop us in our tracks. A smell, a taste, a vision so breathtakingly beautiful that our only choice is to stop and take it all in. These moments are the moments that I live for. Often what we witness is not a “thing,’ at all. Instead it may be an act that we witness leaving us inspired and filled to the brim with gratitude for the good and grateful people in this world. This summer, which has been an exceptionally introspective and reflective summer, has been loaded with moments like these. Leading up to this summer I experienced a profound loss. After a life fully and well lived, my most beloved Father passed away leaving us with his countless stories, poems, sculptures, books and good memories that I will cherish forever. The days after he left us I felt entirely empty. An unfathomable void now existed in my heart. As many of us who have lost loved ones might understand, the profound emptiness experienced during a period of mourning provides an extraordinary opportunity. A moment in which we become tuned in and are able to see ourselves, others and the world around us with absolute clarity.

Speaking with close friends who lost their Fathers shortly after the passing of mine, I was struck by how often I was hearing things like, “I am able to see who matters most to me in my life and I want to nurture those relationships above others,” “I look out into the ocean and am amazed by the beauty of the water as it meets the sky,” “I feel stronger than ever before, like I’ve been infused with a new found power…”

Every conversation that I had with each of these dear friends, made me realize how incredibly powerful and transformational loss truly is. Is it that colors do actually become brighter? Do the people who matter most to us suddenly become that much more important? Does food really start tasting better? Perhaps not, but our appreciation for ourselves, our health and all of the things, people and experiences that make our lives what they are, deepens and we, perhaps subconsciously, become extremely selective about what we choose to fill the void in our hearts with.

How incredibly beautiful would it be if we were all able to spend a little time each day to reflect on everything that we are grateful for. Not only during the dark and challenging times, but truly every day? What a beautiful world we’d live in if each of us where able to organize our priorities in a way that brought us closer to love and closer to ourselves?

Take time today to sit peacefully and reflect on what a gift it is to be alive.

Stop.

Smell the roses…

buy the shoes…

eat the cupcake…

life is short.